Why Men Don’t Respect SOME Women

Let me ask you a questions.

Would you like to finally be treated with the respect you deserve from any man you’re interested in dating?

If so, then this will be one of the most important blog posts you read.

As a man, I have miss treated women in the past and I’d like to humbly apologize. There is no excuse for anyone to disrespect another human being.

Please forgive me and let me make it up to you by teaching you, from a man’s perspective, how to make certain no man ever disrespects you again.

First you need to understand…

Men Want Sex

To us men, there is nothing else we want that bad on a continuous basis. There’s nothing else like it and we simply cannot live without it.

Take our house, take our job, the car, our sports, but please do NOT take away sex.

When a man approaches you, he has a plan. And the main plan is to sleep with you, or,  to find out how to sleep with you.

Men view relationships and sex differently than women.

Let me explain…

Men and women are wired differently.

We act differently when we are dating and when we are in a relationship. The number one difference is…

…when a woman meets a man and feels a spark, chemistry, connection, for her

…it’s usually an emotional experience and she begins to become attracted to him.

For men, it’s a bit different.

With us, the spark, chemistry, connection is almost completely physical.

When a man feels a strong physical chemistry with a woman, he will do almost anything to be with her, make her happy and impress her.

Unfortunately, most women confuse this for affection or love. It is not…

…as men, we can feel strong passionate desire to be with a woman, without ANY consideration of who she is as a person. Because again…

for men, it’s physical chemistry first. When we feel it, we will show you our attention, interest and attraction.

Please understand, most men are NOT trying to trick you.

Yes, there are some “players” out there but, most men ARE interested in a long term relationship…

with the right woman.

When a man shows you his attention, interest and attraction, he is truly interested in you

…it’s just for most men to have developed deep emotional feelings or at least similar feelings to the ones you have, typically takes a whole lot longer.

So, Is He Just Interested In Sex?

Not exactly, but, it certainly is a very high priority for him. Men are goal oriented and a long term committed relationship is usually NOT one of our goals.

This is not to say that he isn’t interested in a long term committed relationship, but for a man, it is not his priority. Sex is.

So, what does he do?

He tries to sleep with you, with absolutely no strings attached (no commitment). If you allow this, it is YOUR fault, not his.

Please forgive me for being so blunt. I only do so, to help you understand how we men think and operate, so you can find a man who treats you like the goddess you are!

How To Make Certain He Respects You

You need to have standards. In other words, what behavior you will and will not accept from a man.

What do you want/need in order for the relationship to work for you?

For example, a monogamous relationship, a partnership with a man who wants to be a dedicated husband and father, faithful, love God, etc.

Now, maybe these are not important to you. That’s OK, you simply need to decide what IS important to you and make it clear to any man who you date or are dating.

You must be careful how you present this to a man. You can not make it sound like you’re ticking off a list (even if that’s what you are doing).

How do you think a man will act, if you wag your finger at him and say, “I will not tolerate a man who does not understand my role as a mother-if you have a problem with my kids and the rest of my family, you’ve got a problem with me!”

He’s probably going to think, at best you’re angry, at worst, you’re crazy and perhaps, your family is too.

But what if you said it more like this: “Oh, you know, I have kids and they’re number one in my life because my parents raised me to understand the importance of family.”

See the difference? The first is more like an attack, where the second is simply stating what’s important to you and your values.

What Should Your Requirements Be?

This is completely up to you. You need to sit down and figure this out for yourself. I have written a few questions you can ask yourself, so you can come up with your own set of requirements.

  1. What specific kind of man are you looking for? (For example, funny? Hardworking? Generous?)
  2. How do you expect to be pursued? (Do you want regular phone calls? Text messages? Dates at least three times a week? He should always pick up the tab?)
  3. What level of commitment do you expect? (Do you want an open relationship? Date exclusively? Should it be open to discussion?)
  4. What kind of financial security do you expect him to have? (Do you want him to be rich? Do you want him to make more money than you? Are you okay with a blue-collar worker?)
  5. Do you want a man who wants kids and is family oriented?
  6. Does he have to be religious/spiritual?
  7. Do you mind if he’s divorced or has kids?
  8. Can you help a man build his dreams? Can you adapt to his plan?
  9. What do you expect of his family? (Should you get along with his mother? Do you care if he doesn’t get along with her? Or if his father was never around?)
  10. What should he be willing to do to woo you? (Should he pursue you? Give you expensive gifts?

If you want him to respect you, respect yourself and have standards he must meet, if he wants to be with you.

You Have The Power

When a man approaches you, you’re the one with total control over the situation. You decide whether he can talk to you, buy you a drink (whether you accept or not), dance with you, get your number, take you home, etc.

While we certainly want these things from you, after all, it’s why we came to talk to you in the first place…

…it’s you who decides if you’re going to give us any of the things we want, and how, exactly, we are going to get them.

Every word you say, every move you make, every signal you give to a man will help him determine whether he should try to play you, be straight with you or move on to the next woman who might be a bit “easier”.

When you have standards as stated above (did you answer the questions?) the man knows you’re NOT some play thing but a woman with standards.

But…He May Walk Away

So many women have been given such bad advice about men (usually from other women, why do women think another woman understands men better than a man?).

You’ve probably been told something like “You just don’t pass up any opportunity when a man walks your way-he could be The One.

Let me clear this up for you. This philosophy is just plain DUMB!

Women are smart. You can tell when your friends are lying or when your kids (if you have them) are up to no good.

You’re quick to let them know that you’re not stupid, you know what they’re up to and you’re not going to let them get one over on you.

But when it comes to relationships with men, all of that goes out the window. You relinquish your power and lose all control over the situation, simply because THIS man MIGHT be a keeper.

STOP giving away your power. When you have standards, men will understand right up front that you will not put up with any of their games.