Is It OK For Him To Look At Other Women?

Let me ask you a question…

…please be honest…

Have you ever been in love with a man and seen another guy and thought to yourself…”He’s hot!”

If you’re like most women (and you’re being honest) your answer was yes.

Did that look and reaction toward another man mean you lost interest in YOUR man? Possibly, but…

In all likelihood, you simply had a normal, stimulus response. What is a stimulus response? Let me explain…

We are bombarded by stimuli everyday. A stimuli activates more of the senses (sight, sound, touch, smell and taste)some examples of stimulus are:

  • Visual stimuli- like the screen in front of you or someone walking by
  • Sound stimuli-like click of the keys, A person speaking
  • Touch stimuli-like the feel of the keys under your fingertips a gust of wind
  • Smell stimuli- like the smell of bacon or someone’s perfume

We respond in many different ways. Here are some examples of responses:

  • Muscle movements-like pressing a key with a finger or turning your head
  • The product of muscle movements like speaking, looking at something (someone), glands secreting hormones, increased adrenaline flow inside the body
  • Brain reactions-like changes in the EEG (brain waves)

All of this happens unconsciously and every human being, both male and female, has stimulus response.

So when a man looks at another woman, this, by itself, is nothing to be concerned or upset about. However…

If a man is looking at other women and then losing focus on you, that is something to be concerned about.

Your man should be focused on YOU. As I stated earlier, we are bombarded by millions of stimuli each and every day. Some if it floats past unnoticed other stimuli generate a response.

It is totally understandable that a man seeing a beautiful woman might look her way. Again, as long as he’s focused on you and not on her, this is a normal response and I’m not saying that just because I’m a man. My beautiful love goddess agrees.

Now, if your man becomes distant in other ways, it could mean he’s pulling away for many other reasons, nothing at all to do with other women. You can read more about why men pull away here.

So, while it’s most certainly NOT OK for your man to lose focus on you because he’s looking at other women, that is a man who is clearly not ready for a relationship with an amazing woman like you.

Remember, men and women are wired differently than women and until you understand those differences you will continue to struggle in all of your relationships with men.