4 Things Every Man Wants In A Woman

what a man wants in a womanWhile every man is different and has different wants, desires and likes, there are certain things that just about every man wants in a woman he is involved with.

If you want to win a man’s heart, you need to know how to trigger a deep emotional attraction in him (yes, men are moved by emotion just like women). In this post I’m going to take you inside a man’s mind so you understand what it takes to trigger this kind of connection in him.

I’m talking about a real man. Someone who is mature and grounded on a physical, mental and spiritual level. They are on a great journey and they are open to continued growth on a deeply personal level. I’m guessing you want to find a man like this or you wouldn’t be reading thins post. You want a real man whose looking for a real relationship.

So what does a REAL man want in a woman?

#1) A Woman Who Is Playful

One of the things that drive men wild and draws them into a deeper level of “connection” is play.

Most men enjoy being active and to play. They were raised on sports like football, basketball and hockey. All aggressive action sports. They were raised on superhero movies like SPIDERMAN, BATMAN, SUPERMAN, etc.

Unfortunately, women all too often lose sight of this. They want to talk their way into a man’s heart. Men are not moved by talking about things like most women. In fact, men will typically listen to what you have to say and then try to “fix” things.

It’s not a woman’s words that attracts a man to her, it’s the experiences they share and create together.

If you really want to ramp up the attraction and interest he has towards you, watch or play sports together, be competitive in the games you play with him (make sure you have fun first).

#2) An Independent Woman

Many women mistakenly believe that men are looking for “weak” women. Women who make them feel they are smarter, more powerful and have to be taken care of.

And while men do like to feel like a woman’s hero, they do NOT want a weak woman.

Real men want a woman to inspire them. He wants her to have great things going on in her life. They want a woman who has a purpose other than being in a relationship.

Keep in mind, men do not feel the same fulfillment as a woman by being in a relationship. While men do enjoy being in a relationship, they do NOT define themselves by said relationship the same way most women do.

A truly great guy will never be intimidated by a woman who is independent and successful. A key component to this is to always make your man feel needed. Something as simple as needing your manly man’s muscles to open a jar will bring out the best in him without a woman having to appear weak.

Stay busy in your life and do not suddenly make him your world. Never drop your interests, responsibilities and friends just to be with a man. Not only will it hurt you in your personal life, it will hurt you in your relationship too.

Making your man your entire focus puts too much pressure on him and will send him running for the exit.

#3) A Woman Who Is Emotionally Mature

How a woman handles her emotions is one of the most important thing a man looks for when deciding on whether or not to get serious with a woman.

If a woman is constantly bringing all her life “drama” into the relationship, it will cause her man to want to “fix’ the problem. Men do not talk about their feelings the way women do. When a man talks about his feelings it’s in an attempt to solve a problem.

Women on the other hand, talk about their feelings just to feel better. When a woman goes to her man and starts telling him about her problems of the day, typically she’s simply looking for him to lend an ear and listen to her. This will make her feel better but…

…men do not operate this way and by expecting your man to act like your best girlfriend is asking him to assume a role he is not cut out for. Besides, you want your man to be a man, not a girlfriend…right?

If a woman lets her emotions get out of control, this is a big red flag to him.

#4) A Woman He’s Intensely Attracted To

Passion is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. To have passion, you both need to be attracted to the other person. Whenever I’ve asked women why they got divorced, they almost always tell me “there was no passion”.

It’s the same for men. He must feel a passionate and powerful attraction for a woman. Now, I’m not talking about a woman’s looks, although that is a factor, believe it or not, it’s not the biggest factor in attraction.

Men like women of all shapes, sizes and appearance. The key for a man is to be mentally attracted and mentally stimulated by a woman.

A common way women accidentally kill the attraction men might be feeling is by either trying too hard to get him to like you, or by acting like the relationship is too serious too soon.

Relax and let things happen naturally. Make sure you do and say things that interject fun and humor into your relationship from the very start.  There’s nothing more appealing to a man than a great woman who knows how to relax and have fun.